Responsiveness is a form of Respect

I’ve always been a big fan of responsiveness—and of responsive people. In dating, I never understood the “wait a few days” or “play it cool” strategy. The too-cool-for-school look doesn’t look that cool to me. I’ve always vibed best with the quick responders of the world.

This isn’t to say that being slow to respond—means disrespect. Life is busy; no one, including myself, should ever expect instant replies. But I do believe every response gives you the potential opportunity to show respect. It’s a signal that you have complete control over and can make to anyone.

A quick reply says, you matter.

It’s a small but powerful way to show you care.

Think of responsiveness as a kind of currency. It’s easy to create, freely available, and highly valuable. In a single day, I might get texts from friends, emails from colleagues, Slacks from co-workers, or notes from family. A fast response to any of them can spark goodwill. Surely no one should fault you for replying tomorrow—but replying right now carries a small, compounding impact.

For anyone reading in the beginning of your career, print this currency like it’s 2020…you have the least other forms of currency (experience, skills) and the most time. Print this currency as much as you can. Overtime, it will pay off in so many ways.

Of course, there’s a limit. You shouldn’t be glued to your phone or neglect focus, flow, or presence with loved ones. But when you can hit someone back quickly, why not? Responsiveness builds connection and trust—the foundation of any strong relationship.

So while you don’t owe anyone instant communication, it’s worth remembering the feeling of getting a quick reply yourself. It feels good to be respected.

In short: respond to others how you’d like to be responded to.

Responsiveness is a form of respect.